Name: A Better Way To Stop Backbiting | Taraweeh Reflections
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Channel: Dr. Omar Suleiman
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 SubhanAllah, as we come through these verses, we come to the verses of Ibadur-Rahman.  The servants of the most merciful and the qualities of the servants of the most merciful.  May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make us amongst those that embody these qualities of Ibadur-Rahman.  Allahumma ameen.  SubhanAllah, there is one verse that I wanted to focus on because it's one of those things that you ironically quickly move through.  وَإِذَا مَرُّوا بِاللَّهُ مَرُّوا كِرَامًا  When they come across idle speech, they pass through with dignity.  SubhanAllah, very similar by the way to what we hear about in the beginning of Surah Al-Mu'minun.  The previous description of the believers.  وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ عَنِ اللَّغْوِ مُعْرِضُونَ  Those who prohibit idle speech.  They don't engage in idle speech.  And here Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala describes Ibadur-Rahman.  الَّذِينَ يَمْشُونَ عَنِ الْأَرْضِ هَوْنَ  They're walking very peacefully on the earth.  Not harming, not accepting harm and not harming.  وَإِذَا خَاطَبَهُمُ الْجَاهِلُونَ قَالُوا سَلَامًا  Someone comes to them aggressively and they simply  وَالْجَهَلُ هُنَ بِمَعْنِ الْغَضَبِ  As the scholars mentioned, ignorance here is in the meaning of anger, in the meaning of aggressiveness.  So when people are aggressive towards them directly, they say salam.  They say we want no part of this.  They keep moving, they keep it moving.  But it's one thing when you are the recipient of it.  But إِذَا مَرُّوا بِاللَّغْوِ مَرُّوا كِرَامًا  When they come across a laghu, when they come across false speech, idle speech,  they move with dignity.  Usually this is going to be when the subject is someone other than you.  Someone else is being spoken about.  And as most people will end up in hellfire because of their tongues,  I pray that Ramadan is an opportunity for us inshaAllah ta'ala  to purify our tongues as much as possible.  Allahumma ameen.  And to let this tongue be that which is pleasing to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala  and to say that which is pleasing to Allah  so that we accustom our tongues to saying good words  so much so that we find that a good word that we said in passing enters us into Jannah  and not a bad word that we said in passing enters us into hellfire.  Allahumma ameen.  So I wanted to talk about something very profound that I came across  from Imam al-Ghazali rahimahullah ta'ala  and Ibn Qudam rahimahullah elaborates a bit on this  about this idea of actually being able to prohibit backbiting  because there are stages, there are levels.  And I want to start from this premise here.  The believer thinks before they speak.  The hypocrite does not think before they speak.  In fact, Imam Hassan al-Basri rahimahullah said,  the number one distinguisher between the mu'min and the munafiq,  between a believer and a hypocrite  is that the believer's tongue is filtered by their heart.  Before they say anything, it's behind their heart.  They consider whether or not this is appropriate  and whether or not this will benefit them or harm them  and then they speak through that.  Whereas the hypocrite speaks first and then considers  only if they find some sort of consequence in this life.  So the very first basis here is al-'ajratu min al-shaytaan.  Hastiness is from the shaytaan.  If a person is very quick with their speech,  they're going to make a lot of mistakes.  And if a person talks too much,  they're going to make a lot of mistakes.  Al-'ajratu min al-shaytaan means the pace at which you speak,  something comes up and you say something very fast.  And the Prophet ﷺ said,  a person ends up in the depths of hellfire  with a kalima la yulqi laha bala.  He didn't even think about it when he said it.  He said it so quickly, so casually.  He just quickly said it or quickly typed it,  quickly commented.  So if you're accustomed to quick commentary,  you're most likely going to fall in this.  And as Umar radiAllahu anhu said,  if you're accustomed to a lot of commentary,  man kathura kalamuhu, kathura saqtuhu.  If you talk too much,  you're going to end up making too many mistakes.  And you're going to end up,  man kathura saqtuhu, kathura dhunubuhu,  wa man kathura dhunubuhu,  kana tinnaaru awla bihi.  If a person makes too many mistakes,  then their sins will pile up.  And then if a person has too many sins,  then hellfire becomes a more likely destination for them.  So if you talk too fast and if you talk too much,  you're likely to end up in trouble.  So at the very minimum here,  the believer has a process  in which they think about what they're going to say  before they say it.  And especially when someone else's name gets mentioned.  Why?  Because if it's something sinful that you say  that doesn't involve someone else,  then the process of redemption,  the process of tawbah at the end of the day  comes back to only you and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.  But once someone else's name was brought into it,  then the process of tawbah becomes a lot more complicated.  Of cour…

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